Are you always right? Probably not. Think about it…
A topic we had in a blog a few weeks ago was to “stop being offended,” because if you’re always right, that would be boring, and then nothing would ever be different, would it? Nothing would be unique. It all would be what you thought was right and what you thought you should do… that’s really, really, boring isn’t it?
There’s no adventure in that.
There’s no fun in that.
There’s no new experiences to learn about…
There’s no expectations that you thought somebody else could meet, and that you wanted to meet those expectations as well… or you’re watching someone else’s journey and now you, yourself, can do what they’re doing now.
Think about that…
You don’t always have to be right. It’s okay. It’s okay to listen to somebody else and follow their advice on what to do. Your way isn’t the only way and you don’t have to be right all the time.
When have you done something nice for somebody, just because, with no reward… Think about it…
In our previous post we talked about positivity and how it can cleanse and make things better. What if you were to do something positive with no reward? Have you ever been to Starbucks when the person ahead of you buys everybody’s coffee, how great of a feeling is that? Or when you go to the grocery store and somebody bags your groceries… or if you see your next door neighbor, do you ever stop and say, “Hey, how are you doing?” …Honestly when was the last time you stopped and talked to someone for a couple of minutes and showed interest because you were listening to hear instead of only listening to respond. Simple things like that. What does that do? Because there is no reward involved. It’s a positive action!
So when was the last time you did that? When was the last time you bought the persons’ behind you coffee? Or the last time you sent flowers to a good friend, your spouse or coworker just because you know they’re having a rough week… Or how about the last time you brought your parents or sibling(s) out to eat just because or maybe bought them a card to show gratitude and how much you care about them?
Sometimes, we get caught up in our own lives and we forget to engage with people around us… when it cost nothing to do so! Spread positive action by the way you treat others, reward or not.
Are you actually being positive? Think about it..
How often do you find yourself talking bad about something in your life? How often do you find yourself talking bad about someone in your life? How often do you watch the news and this presidential election? And all you see are these negative things. Negative… negative… negative… negative!
Have you ever thought about being positive? How it can cleanse you? How it can make you feel great… and how it has the incredible affect on everybody around you when you say good things and do good things?!
And hey, listen…how you react to things – that’s how you’re made up, and we can always change that…but why not try to change it in a way to always being positive? Do you feel better when things are good? I’m pretty sure most people do. I don’t think anyone feels great being negative all the time. So why not try to always be positive and surround yourself with positive things? Like, positive music, TV, books. Do something nice for yourself that makes you feel good or maybe even do something for someone else that makes them feel good.
DO – POSITIVE – THINGS.
Positivity can make things better; it can cleanse things. #ThinkAboutIt
Are you willing yourself to be better? To think better.. to feel better.. to treat people around you better.. to do better in your business.. to be better in any relationship you’re in, with your spouse, partner, or etc….?
Will yourself to do better. Sometimes you’ll hear people say, “Fake it until you make it.” I don’t really think you should fake something, I think really you should WILL yourself to do it!
Example: Getting up early to go to a job, whether you love it or hate it. If you’re on your way to your goals in the end, and you’re putting in the efforts every day, that’s willing yourself to do something.
Another example is keeping yourself physically and mentally fit. That’s a will. You will yourself to keep going, to think positive. To be a good human being, to treat everybody around you and yourself with love. In all this, you’re willing yourself to do better. Right?!
I’m pretty sure that’s the idea of it. It’s not about faking it or lying to yourself… it’s about willing yourself to do better. And treat yourself better and overall be better… Will yourself to be better! You just have to keep driving… and driving… and driving until you get yourself to where you’re wanting to go. #ThinkAboutIt
STOP GETTING OFFENDED! Think about it.. If somebody gives you their two cents or if someone has a disagreement with you, do you get offended?
Or in our case of fitness, someone tells you,
“You’ve got to lose weight..”
“You’ve got to get a little bit stronger..”
“You have to do something else..”
…do you get offended?
If yes, WHY? Why do you get offended? All someone is trying to do is tell you their opinion, or tell you if they agree or disagree… and why is that a problem? How do you plan to keep moving forward if you only continue doing what you think is right all of the time?
That’s not how it works.
You have to be open to learning new techniques because not every technique works for everyone… Unless, again, as we’ve mentioned in previous posts, you’re living on your own on the top of a mountain, completely self-sustaining, you’ve got to deal with other people, which means you have to consider everybody else’s opinion. And if you keep getting offended when people say things that you don’t like or people say things to you that you have a hard time listening to… GET OVER IT. STOP BEING OFFENDED.
It’s okay! If you’re having a hard time taking that… wow, good luck trying to be a human being all the time. #thinkaboutit
Do you love yourself? Think about it…
We’re trying to make people better… you’re trying to make the world around you better, but do you love yourself?
If you don’t love yourself, how can you love what you do?
How can you love the person next to you?
How can you love anybody else?
I don’t know… I don’t know. I mean, how can you spread love if you don’t know what it is to love yourself? Things go wrong. Things go right. You still have to love yourself; things happen.
If you love yourself first, then you can spread love and then you can learn and know what love is too. If you don’t, how do you do it? I don’t know…
Think about it… It’s the greatest lesson of all, isn’t it?!
It’s the one thing we all want.
It’s the one thing we can’t have enough of.
It’s the one thing we always can agree on.
Love. Start with yourself.
How many of you love the process? Not many of you do.. Think about it…
If you think about all these great achievements that you’ve had in your life, how many times did you say, “I LOVED waking up tired!,” “I LOVED feeling like crap,” “I LOVED knowing that I was getting further and further away from my goal, but eventually I would do it” ..?
Almost none of you have said that to yourselves in the process. You kept thinking about, “Man I want to accomplish this goal.. I want to have this achievement… this success!”
But did you ever LOVE the process?
It seems, and I know in my life and with our clients, the ones who love the process are showing up day in and day out, focused on doing what they’re trying to accomplish little by little, step by step… those are the ones who are constantly more successful!
Do you love the process?
What good are obstacles? Think about it..
Obstacles are always looked at as being something we have to overcome; we all have to deal with it and we have to figure something out to get around, over, under… however, OVER them.
But are obstacles good?
Yeah, I think so. I think obstacles are great! Honestly, I think most of what we consider to be an “obstacle” isn’t really an obstacle at all. I think what we refrain to as an obstacle at times, is really something that is just going to take some getting used to; or you have to get over or you have to accomplish it, right?
It’s interesting to me… we keep using that word “obstacles” as if it’s a bad thing. But I think an obstacle is something you have to get around or get over… it can even be considered as a learning curve or an experience in which you will grow stronger, more resilient through. When did “obstacle” become such a negative word? So is it really an obstacle or something that just happens? Something that goes wrong or something else you have to get through, get over, or get under. I think it’s all in the mindset and in how you look at it.
But why do we call them obstacles?
Obstacles are something you’re dodging on a mud runners course. It’s impossible to not have things come up or something happen in life, but is what you’re facing really an obstacle that you’re overcoming or is it just living life a lot of the time?
What’s your perspective… think about it.
Like you grew up a certain way, you lived a certain way and you believe certain things. But have you ever stopped and asked yourself, “Maybe my perspective is wrong?” or “Maybe my perspective is different.”
That’s one of those challenges we face as a fitness coach, trying to figure out where people are coming from. Why are they doing what we’re prescribing them to do? And why are they staying on this program? Or why aren’t they staying on this program?
It’s so important too because let’s say you have a client, let’s take a weight loss person, for instance, who their whole life has always been heavy and their family has always struggled with obesity… been a family that has always eaten a high carb, soda & sugar diet, etc.; is it reasonable for us to assume that they will be able to change their lifestyle instantaneously? Probably no, not likely.
But if you don’t have that consciousness to think about their perspectives, how are you going to help them? And I think this applies to anyone. Your next door neighbor, spouse, best friend, boyfriend or girlfriend, family member, whoever… You might not have to understand where people are coming from, but you do have to understand why they think what they think. You don’t’ have to agree or disagree with them, but you do need to understand why they think certain things and the way that they think.
But I will say, you really don’t want to keep pushing people to do what you want them to do or to think what you want them to think. You want people to have their own authentic experience and authentic ideas. You want people to authentically and organically get to where they want to get to.
As a fitness coach, yes, keep giving them options and talking about stuff but allow their perspectives lead them, their goals, and their own lifestyle.
What are your intentions? Think about it..
We have goals. We have the will. We have our imagination to make things happen… We have all these types of things, right?! But what are your intentions?
I’m reading this book right now by Wayne Dyer talking about, “the power of intention.” There is this invisible energy that yields us to do x, y, and z. Will is involved, imagination is involved… all of these other things (we already said that… okay). But truly what are your intentions to do something?
If you intend to walk across the street, that’s an intention. Still powerful. Still an intention. But let’s take it a step further. Is your intention to have this great fulfilling love.. great fulfilling career.. this great fulfilling ______ (fill in the blank)..?
Do you think about your intention or do you just walk across the street? And “OH. Somebody hit me… Okay, well, I intended for that NOT to happen.” ..right!
Well in life we intend for all these things to happen – that we WANT to happen. Think about your intentions for the rest of your life… or your intentions to walk across the street which is simple… but our intentions for life we don’t keep simple. Why is that?
Your intention to be more successful, to have this better relationship, or to have a great day. Why do we make it so much harder!? It really isn’t that much harder! But we make it harder for ourselves… Focus on keeping your intentions simple! Or at least HAVE intentions to keep them solid and successful. #thinkaboutit